Life is tough when scars run deep, but God makes ways to cope

Life hurts.  Hurts leave scars.  If you’ve been abused like me, your scars run very deep.  Sometimes I think the scars have healed over and won’t burst open again, but things have a way of penetrating and piercing those scars so that they reopen and become sort of like the wounds they originally were.  It doesn’t matter how much time has passed.  Emotionally, it feels like these things happened yesterday or the day before.

So, how do I as a counselor and a spiritual leader counsel and encourage myself when things like this happen?  The first thing I do is acknowledge my feelings, which are decidedly real even if they don’t accurately reflect what’s going on.  The second thing I do is connect to God and ask for His help yet again to deal with and face these strong feelings and move forward with my life yet again. God reminds me of scripture that assures me He is with me in this, that I am not alone like I was when I was a kid and young adult.  God reminds me that no weapon formed against me will be successful. The third thing I do is talk or write about what’s going on (like I am doing now).  That seems to help release those awful feelings that sometimes tend to make me feel paralyzed and stuck.

Scriptures

Isaiah 54:17

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17     no weapon forged against you will prevail,
    and you will refute every tongue that accuses you.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
    and this is their vindication from me,”
declares the Lord.

Deuteronomy 31:6

New International Version (NIV)

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Psalm 9:10

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10 Those who know your name trust in you,
    for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.

Psalm 73:23

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23 Yet I am always with you;
    you hold me by my right hand.

Matthew 28:20b

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20  And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

 

 

Let’s Pray

Father God, thanks for being with me and strengthening and comforting me in my time of need.  No matter what’s going on in my life, I know You are there to help and encourage.  Thanks for giving me the spiritual tools I need to be able to break free from  these awful feelings.  Thanks for the spiritual hugs and the love.  Thanks for being with all those who read these words and help them to break free, too so they can move forward to be and do what You have for them to be and do.  May they feel Your presence and healing touch like I do today and from this moment on.  In Jesus’ name, amen.

Things to Think, Pray and Journal About

1.  Can you talk or write down specifically what’s bothering you right now?  Do you know what triggered those feelings?

2.  Have you asked God to help you work through your feelings so that you can break free and move forward with your life?

3.   Abuse makes you feel helpless and unprotected.  How does being connected to God help those feelings?  Do you know God is here for you?

4.  Are you still with your abuser?  Have you made plans to leave?  Why haven’t you left so that you can be in a safe place where you can begin your emotional recovery?

5.  Are you learning to value yourself?  Do your needs matter?  Do your safety and happiness matter?

 

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7 Responses to Life is tough when scars run deep, but God makes ways to cope

  1. secretangel says:

    Yes, these wounds of abuse are very deep and just when we think that we will never be bothered with it again, something happens to make them resurface. I have recently gone through the same thing and all we can do is keep praying for God to totally heal us. Many blessings to you, my sister.

    • You are so right, my sister! Without God, we would all be emotionally trapped. On our own, we can use coping mechanisms, but only God can heal.

      Thanks for sharing your pain. I pray God moves swiftly to not only remove your present pain but heal you so that you can be set free from your pain. Meanwhile, He is here for you and so am I.

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